Psych Your Mind: Does marriage matter? Testosterone says no

Last weekend I went back to my hometown for the wedding of my childhood best friend. June is the height of wedding season and there was definitely a frenzy in the air as people prepared for their big day. So during this time, it seems only right to ask? does marriage matter?

Our society certainly seems to think so. As young girls, my best friend and I used to dress up in her mom?s dresses and ?play wedding.? In early elementary school we had imaginary husbands. In high school we looked at bridal magazines and talked about when we would meet our future husbands. In college we had conversations about how we would know when we'd met "the one." And its not just us? close relationships research historically focused on the marital relationship, the political world is in upheaval over the meaning of marriage, tabloids make their money by filling their magazines with celebrity weddings (and divorces), and Beyonce let all the guys know ?if you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it.??

But, if I?m being honest here, nothing about my relationship changed when I got married. Yes, he?d ?put a ring on it,? but in our daily lives there were really no discernible differences pre- to post- marriage. We'd been in a committed relationship for years, and having a wedding and becoming a "spouse" wasn't a life- or relationship-changing event.So does marriage matter? To answer this question, we turn to an unlikely source: testosterone. Testosterone is associated with aggression, competition and mate-seeking behaviors. In line with this, early research on male testosterone found a relationship between men?s testosterone level and their marital status. For example, in a study by Peter Gray and colleagues (2002), men who were married had lower testosterone than men who were not married, suggesting that marriage mattered ? in comparison to unmarried men, married men were likely to be less focused on mate-seeking and more focused on pair-bonding and paternal care. However, a study by Terry Burnham, Gray, and colleagues (2003), questioned whether it was really about marriage, or if simply being in a committed relationship would also be associated with lower testosterone and thus a focus on pair-bonding instead of mate-seeking.

?What did their results show? As pictured above, single men had higher testosterone than married men or men in committed relationships and there was no significant difference in testosterone between married and committed men.* Together, these findings suggest that, at least at the level of the male hormone, marriage doesn?t matter.

Of course, these studies don?t tap into the question of whether marriage has an impact at the psychological level, and the answer to that will likely change as society's views of marriage change. But as we move into an era where marriage is a hot button issue, I think its important to ask whether having a ?spouse? is actually more meaningful than having a ?significant other."

*In most studies, fathers have the lowest testosterone.

Do you think marriage matters? Did marriage change anything for you or those close to you?

The article:

Burnham, T., Chapman, J., Gray, P., McIntyre, M., Lipson, S., & Ellison, P. (2003). Men in committed, romantic relationships have lower testosterone Hormones and Behavior, 44 (2), 119-122 DOI: 10.1016/S0018-506X(03)00125-9

Source: http://psych-your-mind.blogspot.com/2011/06/does-marriage-matter-testosterone-says.html

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